1) Family pressure
Family influences our choices in one way or another. Marriage is not a matter of family choice but is based on the will of the people who love each other.
B) Practice
The person who helped us proposes marriage by counting the lives; we then lose the power to resist. So it’s good to think about why you/you spend time out. Because it can lead to the wrong choice.
3) Economic hardship
People approach people who help them because of their disabilities. This relationship turns into marriage. What we need to know here is that it is benefit, not love, that brings the two together. Therefore, if that benefit is lost, the marriage may be dissolved.
4) Blindness
After a person falls in love with someone for a long time, they separate for various reasons. They rush into marriage with someone else to make them jealous. This was done to make jealousy, not a marriage based on love.
5) Overseas opportunities
It has led many people into the wrong marriages; because people think that if we go abroad we will change. This is not a marriage based on love but a dream of the future.
6) False love
This love is a fake love that makes him say it and enters into marriage by pretending to love. Abo 16 /1 Delilah and Samson
7) Love based on outward appearances
This is the body of loving someone based on what they see on the outside. For example, looking at a person’s face, hair, posture, etc. is emotionally driven love. When such love finds that what they want is lacking, their love follows or disappears.Prov 31/3
8) Excessive desire
These people have something they love. Once they get what they want, their love disappears. Eg Amnon and Timar 2Sam
9) Love based on circumstances
This love depends on the circumstances of the loved one. if what he is loved by is lost, the person’s love is lost.
10) False prophecy
This is an age when false prophets are rising up and confusing many people. They have led many into the wrong marriage by saying that God has said what He has not said. A marriage that is established by a false message will not continue because it is not with God
11) Wrong dreams
People can dream. Trying to get married in a dream leads to error. Because the Word of God says that dreams can come from a lot of weakness. We must focus on the Word of God; if we say that God showed us every man we dreamed of, then we are going to have many wives like King Solomon; so relying on dreams leads to error.
↪️ The King. 5/3 The amount of work makes you dream.
↪️ Ecc 5/7 There are many things in many dreams and many words.
12) Wrong signals
Some people use symbols for marriage. This leads to the wrong marriage. For example, if someone signs the person sitting next to me in the taxi on my right to be my wife; and what if the person sitting on his right is a 60-year-old man? Therefore, it is best to avoid using different symbols.
13) Testimonies of people
It’s that someone has seen this about us, heard this, and taking what they tell us as true. This one is misleading; for if people lie to us that they have seen and heard, we have nothing to prove it.
14) lal 5/3 The abundance of work brings dreams.
lal 5/7 In the multitude of dreams and many words there are many vanities
15) Courage
These people enter into the wrong marriage based on information they hear that they are accused.
16) Pregnancy occurred
This is when two people commit adultery and fall into sin, pregnancy occurs. Hence, they enter into marriage without any adequate preparation just because they are pregnant.
Once two friends fell into adultery and became pregnant; when they saw the pregnancy, they immediately came to the church and asked for our marriage ceremony; the church performed their marriage ceremony without any objection as they had already applied and studied marriage. But the most tragic thing is that four months after they got married, a baby was born.
The elders of the church went in shock and said, “How did you have a child in four months?”
Gaa’elaa keessatti Wantoota nama Dogoggoorsan
1) Dhiibbaa maatii
Maatiin karaa tokkos karaa biraas filannoo keenyarratti dhiibbaa ni geessisu. Gaa’elli filannoo maatiitiin kan raawwatamu utuu hin taane fedha namoota wal jaallatani irratti kan hundaa’uudha.
B) Oolmaa
Namni nu gargaare oolmaa lakkaa’achuutiin gaa’elaaf gaaffii dhiyeessa; yeroo sana diduuf humna dhabna. Kanaafuu yeroo oolmaa siif oolu/ooltu maliif jedhanii itti yaaduun gaariidha. Sababnisaas gara filannoo dogogoraatti nama geessuu danda’a waan ta’eef.
3) Rakkoo dinagdee
Namootni hir’ina qabaniif jecha namoota isaan gargaaranitti siqu. Walitti dhufeenyi kun gara gaa’elaatti jijjiirama. Asirratti beekuun kan nuuf malu lamaanuu kan walitti fide jaalala osoo hin taane faay’iidaadha. Kanaaf fayidaan sun yoo dhibame gaa’elichi diigamu danda’a.
4) Ijaa ba’uu
Namni tokko nama tokko jaallatee erga yeroo dheera dabarsaniin booda sababii garaagaraatiin gargar ba’u. Nama irraa gargar ba’an hinaafsisuuf ariitiidhaan nama kan biroo wajjin gara gaa’elaatti seenu. Kunis gaa’ela jaalalarratti hundaa’e osoo hin taane hinaafsisuuuf jecha kan raawwatameedha.
5) Carraa biyya alaa
Namootni baay’een akka gaa’ela dogoggoraa keessa seenaniif sababii ta’eera; namootni yoo biyya alaa baane ni jijjiiramna jedhanii waan yaadaniif. Kunis gaa’ela jaalalarratti hundaa’e osoo hin taane waan gara fuul duraa abjoochuudhaan dhaabbateedha.
6) Jaalala sobaa
Jaalalii kun jaalala sobaa kan isa jechisiisee waan jaallate fakkaatee mul’achuudhaan gara gaa’elaatti kan seenamuudha. Abo 16 /1 Daliilaa fi Saamsoon
7) Jaalala qaama alaan mul’atu irratti hundaa’e
Inni kun qaama nama tokko waan alaan mul’atu ilaalanii jaallachuudha. Akka fakkenyatti fuula, rifeensa, teesuma namaa fi kkf ilaaluun miiraan qofaan geggeefamuun jaallachuudha. Jallalli akkasii waanti barbaadan sun yeroo hir’atee argamu jaalalli isaaniis duukaa hir’ata ykn bada.Fak 31/30
8) Hawwii gar malee
Namootni kun waan hawwanii nama jaallatan qabu. Waan hawwan sana erga argataniin booda jaalalli isaanii ni bada. Fkn Aminoon fi Tiimaar 2Sam 13
9) Jaalala haala irratti hundaa’e
Jaalalli kun haala namni jaallatamu sun keessatti argamu irratti hundaa’a. waan inni ittiin jaallatame yoo bade jaalalli nama sanaas ni bada.
10) Raajii sobaa
Bara kana keessa Raajotni sobaa bara itti ka’anii namoota hedduu walii walaalchisaa jiraniidha. Waan Waaqayyo hin jenne jedheera jechuudhaan gaa’ela dogoggoraatti namoota baay’ee galchaniiru. Gaa’elii ergaa sobaan dhabbate waaqayyoon bira waan hintaaneef itti fufiinsa hin qabaatu
11) Abjuu dogoggoraa
Namootni abjuu arguu danda’u. Abjuu arganiin gaa’ela dhaabbachuuf yaaluun dogoggoratti nama geessa. Sababnisaas abjuun baay’ina dadhabiirraa dhufuu akka danda’u sagaleen waaqayyoo ni dubbata. Nuti xiiyyeffannaan keenya sagalee waaqayyo irratti ta’uu qaba malee; nama abjuun argine hunda waaqayyootu natti argisisee jenna taanaan akka mootii Solomoon haadha manaa hedduu qabaachuuf jirra jechuudha; kanaafuu abjuu argan irratti hirkachuun dogoggoratti nama geessa.
↪️ Lal. 5/3 Baay’inni hojii abjuu namatti fida.
↪️ Lal 5/7 Abjuu baay’ee fi dubbii baay’ee keessa wanta waa’ee baay’eetu jira.
12) Mallattoolee dogoggoraa
Namootni tokko tokko gaa’elaaf mallattootti ni fayyadamu. Kunis gaa’ela dogoggoraatti nama galcha. Fkn nama karaa mirga kootii taaksii keessa na bira teesse haadha manaa koo akka naaf taatu jedhee namni mallattoo yoo kaawwate; namni karaa mirgaa isaa teesse immoo maanguddoo waggaa 60 yoo ta’an maal godha? Kanaafuu mallattoolee gara garaa fayyadamuu irraa of qusachuun gariidha.
13) Dhuga-ba’umsa namootaa
Inni kun namni waa’ee keenya kana argeera, kana dhaga’eera, waan isaan jedhanii nutti himan akka waan dhugaa ta’eetti fudhachuu. Inni kunis dogoggoratti nama galcha; sababiin isaa namoonni argineerra, dhageenyeerra jedhanii sobanii nutti himan yoo ta’e waan ittiin mirkaneeffannu hinqabnu.
14) lal 5/3 Baay’inni hojii abjuu namatti fida.
lal 5/7 Abjuu baay’ee fi dubbii baay’ee keessa wanta waa’ee hin baafne baay’eetu jira .
15) Hamii
Namootni kun akka waan hamatamaniitti odeeffannoo dhaga’an irratti hudaa’anii waan hamataman sana dhugoomsuuf gaa’ela dogoggoraa keessa galu.
16) Ulfa uumame
Inni kun namootni lamaan yeroo ejja raawwatanii cubbuutti kufan ulfi ni uumama. Kanumarraa ka’uudhaan qophee gahaa tokko malee sababa ulfi uumame qofaaf gara gaa’elaatti seenu.
Yeroo tokko hiriyyoonni laman cubbuu ejjaatti kufaani ulfi uumame; ulfi umamu isaa yeroo argan dafanii gara waldaa dhufuudhaan sirna gaa’ela keenyaa nuuf raawwadhaa jedhan; waldaaniis kanaan dura waraqaa galchatanii barumsa gaa’elaas baratanii waan jiraniif mormii tokko malee sirna gaa’elaasaanii raawwatteef. Garuu waanti baayee nama gaddisiisu wal fuudhanii ji’a afuritti daa’imni dhalatte.
Maanguddoonni waldaas naasuudhaan dhaqanii;’’ akkamitti ji’a afur keessatti mucaa godhattanii” jedhanii
